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- Dear Suki
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- Sent by Anon
-
- Dear Suki
-
- I am a man aged 29 years old and i am heavily into comms, I got married 2
- years ago and me and my wife have had no problems so far Until i started
- to use my computer more often on BBS`s etc She decided one day to `try`
- out bbs`s herself and got addicted like i am. She used to logon when i
- am at work and logged on to many BBS`s around the UK. She eventually
- logged onto one or two BBS`s that i was logged onto and recongised me my
- handle. She eventually got access to restricted areas of these bbs`s and
- they had some form of pornography on them. She also noticed that most of
- the uploads were done by me!. She then approached me and asked what i
- was upto?, i told her the truth that i found the bbs by mistake and
- started to donwload the pics and found them fascinating, and really
- wanted to try some of the stuff in em and was to scared to ask her in
- case she was offended. She agreed to participate in some activites and
- we decided for `a laugh` we`d do our own collection. We got our video
- camera and filmed ourselves whilst Participating.
-
- I eventually digitized these and put them on the hardrive. I archived
- the collection to save space. This is were the trouble started i think
- during a batch upload i mistakenly uploaded to archive to at least 8
- bbs`s. I didn`t realise it until oneday she downloaded them from another
- BBS!!!!. She was *FUMING* and nearly killed me, she slapped me and hit
- me and generally i got cursed etc. I tried to tell her it was a simple
- mistake but she doesnt listen to me i dont know what to do. I`ve tried
- telling a sysop to delete the pics, but they`ve spread too much. No shes
- theataning to divorce me, and i love her, i really need help i`ve tried
- everything to make it up with her but she refuses, she know living at her
- friends house. Please help
-
- Anon
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- Dear Anon,
-
- Here's a warning to us all - never digitise and install on hardrive any
- pictures you don't want to run the risk of falling into the wrong hands!
-
- The best thing you can do now is to keep telling her how sorry you are
- and hope that eventually she calms down. The problem is that she feels
- that you've abused her trust. Any sort of "erotic photography" between
- consenting partners can only be done when there is explicit trust between
- the parties involved. You trust your partner not to show pictures of you
- in revealing poses to all and sundry. I know what you did was
- accidental, but her feelings have been hurt just the same.
-
- Hopefully she will listen to you eventually - maybe one day she'll even
- find it funny or flattering that so many people wanted to download her
- image! Perhaps you could find an embarrassing, revealing photo of
- yourself, have it photocopied, and pin it up all over town, with the word
- "Sorry" printed across it. It might help to redress the balance and give
- her a good laugh too.
-
- In the meantime, make sure you ask the sysops of any boards where you see
- her pictures to delete them, and carry on grovelling!
-
- And in future make sure you keep your erotic works of art where they
- belong - in private!
-
- Suki
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